Jealousy and insecurity can creep into any relationships including the strong ones. It creates doubts and mistrust and impacts the psychological health of individuals. Mild jealousy and insecurity are normal in every partnership but allowing it to destroy the foundation of your love is something that we should all be afraid of. In this blog, we discuss how to overcome jealousy and insecurity in a relationship.
Understanding Jealousy and Insecurity
Jealousy and insecurity are different from each other. Jealousy is an emotional response that you perceive as a threat. It is often triggered when you think of your partner leaving you for someone else.
Insecurity is related to a lack of self-confidence that creates doubt about your worth in a relationship.
Strategies for Overcoming Jealousy and Insecurity
Holding on to such a relationship can be toxic if things are not mended. Here are a few ways you can overcome such problems
Recognize the situations or behaviours that trigger jealousy and insecurity. Understanding the root cause of such emotions can help you to prevent triggers.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
A lot of us get negative thoughts even though there is no solid reason for it. The best way to deal with it is to challenge your negative thoughts. This is done by giving justification to the brain as to why your spouse won’t leave you or abandon you. Sometimes the frequency of negative thoughts exceeds to an extent that it impacts your mental health. In such cases, you can always get help from your therapist in fighting such thoughts.
Create a healthy communication with your partner. Let him know the reason for the jealousy and insecurity you experience daily. Fostering good and open communication can help you a lot.
A lot of people are jealous and insecure because of the trauma they faced in their childhood or past life. This can negatively affect your relationship status even though your partner is sincere with you. It is important to practice self-care and deal with the trauma before going into a long-term relationship.
Trust is an antidote. Have healthy communication with your spouse and try to build your relationship on trust.
Focus on the Present
Many couples have faced challenges in their past and this can be a huge burden. If your partner has changed himself and is trying hard to gain your trust, then let go of the past. The more you live in past, the more emotional trauma you will experience.
The Impact on Relationships
Excess of both of these can bring black clouds into your love life. They induce emotional turmoil, and fights and erode the trust between couples. According to the survey, couples who have been victims of jealousy and insecurity, have lost the connection as the communication between them became more challenging than ever. It removes the openness and honesty that holds the love, restricting your growth as a couple.
Overcoming the emotions of jealousy and feeling of insecurity brings nothing good but to hold back the relationship. Ask yourself. Do you want to live with your partner? Do you want to build a family with him? Is putting an effort into this relationship worth it? If the answer to all these is yes, then do everything in your power to make your relationship strong.