When you fall in love, it brings out the best qualities in you and life seems a rosy dream, with immense possibilities. But with time and years into the relationship, a pattern sets in and oftentimes the relationship loses its charm. But if you are able to remove the negativity that has crept in, it can spice up your marriage or relationship again.
Think about the positive aspects:
Even if you feel the negativity has deepened and there is nothing to look forward to, there is hope. Think about the time when you were head over heels in love with your life partner. What made him or her so adorable? Think about and list all of the qualities that you love in your partner.
If you don’t like a particular trait of your spouse or partner, sit down and talk about it instead of harboring ill-will and building resentment. It is better to end the negativity and replace it with positive thoughts that help to grow the relationship. Help each other move over annoying habits instead of nagging and using negative words. Reinforce positive terms and endearments when talking with each other.
Though multitude of everyday problems crop up time and again, stop worrying. Think about solutions, instead of enhancing the issue. Sit together and discuss them instead of bottling away your fears and worries.
Enjoy your relationship:
Maybe in the hectic pace of your life, both of you have forgotten to laugh and enjoy the relationship. Take time out, enjoy being together. Instead of just doing chores, go on a dinner date. Dress up especially for the evening and enjoy an outing without kids. Try doing fun things together such as dance classes, cook a meal together or join a club that caters to your mutual interest. Do silly things, laugh more often and you’ll bring fun back in your relationship.